I believe that one of our main purposes to be on this planet is to evolve. Setting and achieving goals is one of the best ways I know how to do this. It requires us to embrace discomfort, generate new belief systems and learn more about ourselves. Every year I spend some time looking back through my planner and writing down all that I achieved over the past year. We are never the same person we were last year, physically, mentally and often spiritually and it is fun and meaningful to look at how far we’ve come. A few of my current clients have asked how I set goals, so I wanted to share the process with all of you in hopes that you join me in this process.
It is important to know that goals help give our brains direction. If not, the default thinking will occur over and over again. Remember, the brain likes to be efficient and wants to recycle= the same thoughts regularly. Thus, when this happens, we get the same results. It’s important to give your mind a new direction by establishing new goals and a new focus.
It is also helpful to come from a place of abundance as opposed to from scarcity. Many of us don’t spend any time at all wanting what we already have. We always think about wanting something we don’t have, but it can be very powerful to create desire for something we already own, or someone in our life that has been there with us for a long time that we love. This helps shift us to a place of abundance. For example, this winter I keep wanting my newer car that has heated seats and a back-up mirror. Wanting what I already creates a space of gratitude and abundance.
Lastly, in order for us to achieve a stretch goal we are going to have to think thoughts we have never thought before. We are going to have to spend some time thinking like our future self: what that person thinks about, how that person tackles obstacles, how he or she shows up in the world. Your brain may fight you on this at first because it doesn’t have an easy template of thoughts to think, but allow it to stress out at first and direct your brain to your future focused thinking.
So here is the process:
- Make a list of 25 things you want – both that you *do* have and that you *don’t*
- Pick only one to two of the ones you don’t have and get very specific about it. Write each goal down, and make sure the goal is measureable. (i.e. if you want to “workout more”, write down, how often, where, and for how long), it must be measureable. Constraint is your friend here, it is better to see one or two goals to completion vs. 5-6 goals at 50% or not at all.
- Put yourself in the mindset of having already accomplished the goal, and write down what you did to accomplish it from that future place. If you struggle with this, it’s okay. Know that as soon as you commit and start taking massive action on your goal, the how will continue to show up……
Lastly, feel free to share your goals with me. I can save them here in a file and we can have some goal check-in sessions. When you evolve to the next level of yourself, you will likely have to confront a lot of negative emotion, fear, self-doubt, and anxiety to name a few. That is where I can come in and help you overcomes these feelings. 2018 is going to be epic! I want to join you in making it so. My passion is to lift people up, if you know someone out there who could also benefit from this thought work, please forward them my emails or ask them to join the list @ Mindyourstrength.com.