This past week I had a session with a client who was worried about a medical diagnosis for a partner. We discussed how the brain often naturally goes to the worst-case scenario in these situations.
In this session, we worked on some concepts. First was playing more in the realm of possibility. I suggested that if she was going to postulate/play with hypotheticals, then she should also play with scenarios that are better & best-case ones. This involved allowing her brain to worry, go to the doom and gloom place because it is possible, but then intentionally ask, “What else is possible?” And to also allow room for a miracle! As we discussed often, we are hit with an optimistic scenario we didn’t even consider or know was on the table.
We also worked on remembering to come back to the NOW/The present moment where everything is okay, where she’s enjoying her partner’s company, and all is well. This is key. Otherwise, we often miss or destroy these moments because we are worried about something scary happening in the future, so we call it in the NOW. That is a waste of emotional energy. When we go into the future and are scared, let that remind us to return to the present moment, where everything is good.
So the next time you face uncertainty and your brain goes straight to worry, I invite you to let that happen the intentionally talk it out with yourself or someone you care about a better and best-case scenario.
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Melanie Shmois, MSSA, LISW-S, is a licensed social worker, holding a Master’s Degree (MSSA) from Case Western Reserve University and a B.A. in Sociology with a minor in Spanish. After spending 2 decades helping others achieve their mental and personal goals, Melanie worked with Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo, and became a certified Life and Weight Coach through the Life Coach School.