One of the most profound lessons that I have learned about goal cultivation, a fancy way of saying making your dreams come true, is that whatever you think you are going to feel when you get that result you hope for is the currency to get it. Meaning if you think you will feel beautiful when you are thin, then you have to feel beautiful to get thin. Another example is if you believe you have to have a very successful business to be confident you have to feel confident to have a successful business. It sounds counterintuitive to many, but it’s actually the key to achieving the results you crave. Game changer.
This is why knowing how to create emotion is so very powerful. I teach my clients that our thoughts create our feelings and knowing how to create feeling states that support our goals is essential to mastering them. This skill is also instructive as, if we’re successful at this, we can feel those exact emotions now instead of waiting until we get to our goal weight, or have a successful business, or find the man or woman of our dreams. This positive emotion promotes change and can create positivity in the current moment.
It is important to recognize that when we have practiced believing that we are unattractive for several years or have very little experience in a new business venture, it can be hard to believe something more uplifting. This is very normal and signifies the growth that needs to take place. I know I am on the right track when creating a goal when it feels a bit icky and exciting all at once. That gap in-between will be the growth factor.
As I have stated in previous blogs, it is often too much of a stretch to go from believing you are unattractive to beautiful, or from I don’t know what I am doing in business to I am a master. The brain will actually reject this intentional thought. What we do is inch our way to this new belief by shifting from I don’t like the way my body looks, to, instead, I have a body. Start at neutral and slowly build our beliefs to support our goals.
Many of you have stated that it is really helpful to practice “I am becoming________” as a bridging thought when you are having trouble believing the intentional ones. I am becoming a woman who believes she can have a million dollar business, or I am becoming a man who believes he can take weight off and keep it off permanently. I am becoming a woman who believes she can find her dream spouse. This confidence will help get you there.
Part 2- will include a deeper dive into the abundance mentality. Embracing abundance is the second secret ingredient to getting what you want out of life and feeling better. Stayed tuned to next week’s blog on abundance.
The New Year is a fantastic time to start your transformative Life or Weight Coaching journey. To sign-up, or learn more go to: http://bit.ly/2rD8YZk. As always, don’t forget to train your mind as hard as you train your body to feel better.