The Secret to Joy & Fulfillment? Your Willingness to Evolve

A few weeks ago, I was at a coaching event where a woman shared a story that completely stopped me in my tracks.

She had gone to see Jerry Seinfeld—>yes, that Jerry Seinfeld—do stand-up at a tiny comedy club in New York City. She was thrilled. She expected sharp timing, polished jokes, nonstop applause… because that’s what icons do, right?

But that night? He bombed.

Some jokes fell flat. Some received awkward silence. People didn’t clap. You could almost feel the discomfort in the room.

And then she realized: Jerry Seinfeld was up there practicing new material.

He wasn’t coasting on his old success. He wasn’t protecting his reputation. He wasn’t attached to only being seen as “excellent.”

He was willingly—and publicly—risking failure in service of his continued evolution.

To me, that is stunning.

Someone as accomplished, beloved, and wealthy as Jerry Seinfeld is still choosing discomfort. Still choosing the risk of rejection. Still putting himself in rooms where his material might not land. Not because he has to—but because it is required for growth.

That moment has stayed with me.

My Own Journey Into Discomfort This Year

When I zoomed out and looked at 2025, I realized I did the same thing in my own way.

• I became a yoga teacher, and leading my first class made me wildly uncomfortable.

• I joined a business networking group that requires weekly public speaking (which used to terrify me!).

• And I brought feminine energetics into sessions with my clients—something that felt deeply aligned but also vulnerable.

Every step required me to be a beginner again. Every step required me to risk being seen. Every step required me to feel the discomfort of growth.

Without thought work… without emotional regulation… without knowing how to process my fear, embarrassment, and self-judgment… I’m not sure I would’ve had the courage.

But here’s the truth:

To evolve, we must be willing to burn down what is working in order to discover what is possible.

We must be willing to look silly. We must be willing to shake up what’s familiar. We must be willing to be witnessed in the messy, imperfect middle.

Where Are You Resting on Old Success?

The end of the year is such a natural time to ask yourself:

Where has your life felt a little stale? Where are you relying on what has worked instead of what will help you grow? Where are you secretly hungry for something new, but afraid to be a beginner again?

If you want to evolve into the next version of yourself, reflect on this:

• What do you want to try in 2026?

• What are you willing to be bad at first?

• What failure are you willing to survive?

• What identity are you ready to outgrow?

Because here’s the part most people don’t realize:

The fastest path to more joy, more excitement, more fulfillment… is your willingness to evolve.

Growth creates aliveness. Evolution creates satisfaction. Trying new things creates energy.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

I’m Here to Help You Process the Hard Feelings

Rejection. Embarrassment. Judgment. These are the emotions we’re conditioned to avoid.

But they are also the emotions that stand between you and your next chapter.

If you know how to feel them.....really feel them.....your entire life opens up.

This is exactly the work I do with my clients: building the emotional capacity to evolve, expand, and become the woman they’re meant to be.

Cher once said:

“The difference between a star and a superstar is her ability to evolve.”

If 2025 has felt too small for who you’re becoming… let’s evolve together.